Most mothers are excited to see their child falling for someone, and are ecstatic for the things that typically come with the territory: watching them progress from casual dating into a serious relationship, establishing a home and starting a family. Sounds reasonable, doesn’t it? Are you one of these mothers? Have you been there?
My daughter has now been dating a guy for a year, and I have yet to meet him. It’s me, not her, who has had all kinds of excuses why this hasn't happened yet. I have refused to be introduced to him.
But it has been a year! You know it must be pretty serious. How long can I continue avoiding the situation? I have probably reached the limit. I will now officially be the last in the family to meet this fellow. I guess it is now my turn.
Why did I wait so long to meet him?
I think I finally figured it out. I think it’s because I’m the one that’s not ready for her to settle down. I’m the one that’s not ready for her adventures to end. Don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I don’t enjoy being married, in fact, it’s been one of the best experiences of my life. I have enjoyed watching my daughters grow up and hearing about all the adventures they have. Today, our children are given so many more opportunities. Their horizons are broader and I’m not done vicariously living through them.
Also, deep down, I don’t want to think of myself as “grandmotherly.” I, myself, have been enjoying the changing times and the freedom that that gives and I still feel as if I have yet to live life to the fullest. I’m not quite ready to revisit the world of diapers and babysitting. Also, let’s be honest...I, too, am not ready to acknowledge growing up and getting older. One day, absolutely, and when that day comes, I’m sure I’ll be overjoyed.
Yet, with my husband’s little push, I gave in. Drumroll, please! I am excited to share with you that I’m going to meet him tonight. Though I am a bundle of nerves I know that I’m about to meet a great guy. Let’s face it, I don’t expect my daughter to date someone less than that.
Tonight is the night!
We’ll be at Nan’s Thai Fine Dining.