The holidays are over. The groundhog has had its day, but for the single woman, there is one more hiccup in the year's road: Valentine's Day, the day that reminds you that Cupid's arrow has once again buzzed by your heart to hit... Well just about everyone else.
Don't look at the upcoming dreaded red day with fear or envy. Get ready to face it head-on. Don't be afraid. You’re not alone. This is your guide to help you survive Valentine's Day.
The first thing you need to know is that you are awesome. Really. It might not feel like it, but you are.
So on Valentine's Day, dress in something red. Bright red. That's right, you are going to flaunt it. Be daring. You will not let this day get you down. It could be a red sweater or red scarf.
No red clothes? Do your nails in red, fingers & toes. Wear flaming red lipstick.
If red isn't your color, pink will also work. But forget green, gray, black, blah. Be bold and be noticeable.
Next, Valentine's cards. Remember when you were in elementary school and everyone exchanged those cheesy, little boxed Valentine's cards with one big one for your teacher? Turns out, adults like them too. So buy a box and give one to your boss and all of your co-workers, even the people you don't like. Everybody gets one. It's a small gesture that goes a long way to making someone's day—including yours.
Now for lunch. Invite some of your girlfriends to go out for lunch to celebrate Valentine's Day. But there are rules. Everyone must tell at least one joke. For example, why didn't the teddy bear want anything to eat? Because he was stuffed. Or prepare jokes ahead of time on individual pieces of paper. Have each person at your lunch draw their joke out of a bag. Then each person has to deliver the joke and try to get the rest of the table to laugh. You could have a contest: the winner doesn't have to pitch in for the tip for lunch.
You get the idea, make it fun.
Give your lunch friends an extra treat. Give each person a chocolate kiss or other Valentine treat. You could even buy tiny gift bags and fill them with candy.
Now it's after work—the the hardest part of the day. Some of your friends will be heading out for a romantic evening. And you will head home—alone.
But, don't think of it like that. Tonight is your night. You are going to do something wonderful just for you. Go home and get into your most comfy jammies. Watch your favorite movie. Curl up and read a good book. Spend time in the kitchen trying out a new recipe. Turn the lights down low. Put on music. Dance. Sing. Whatever it is that you do to relax, whatever it is that you never have time to do, tonight is your night. Indulge and enjoy!
And lastly, before you go to bed, fill your tub with warm water and scented oil. Light some candles. Get a glass of wine. Slip into the tub and relax. Lean back, close your eyes. Feel the warmth of the water and inhale the luscious scent.
Then think about your day. You bravely wore red; You gave all your co-workers valentines; You had a fun lunch with lots of laughter; and you took time to indulge yourself.
And when you think about it, remember you really are awesome. Because only an awesome woman could have a day like this.
You might find you don’t need a valentine to enjoy Valentine’s Day!